What causes a Female Midlife Crisis?


During perimenopause and menopause, our changing hormones can cause or contribute to the problem. Declining estrogen and progesterone levels can interfere with your sleep, make your moods vacillate, and reduce your energy levels. Menopause can also cause memory loss, anxiety, weight gain, and decreased interest in things you used to enjoy.


By the time you reach middle age, it’s likely that you will have experienced some trauma or loss. The death of a family member, a significant change in your identity, divorce, physical or emotional abuse, episodes of discrimination, loss of fertility, empty nest syndrome, and other experiences may have left you with a persistent sense of grief. You may find yourself questioning your deepest beliefs and your most confident choices.


Our youth-obsessed society is not always kind to aging women. Like many women, you may feel invisible once you reach middle age. You may feel pressure to mask the signs of advancing age. You may be struggling to care for your children and your aging parents at the same time. You may have had to make difficult choices about family and career that men your age did not have to make. And divorce or the wage gap may mean you have chronic financial anxieties.

All of this can seem overwhelming and even frightening. But, that’s exactly why you’re here. You are not alone! There are millions of women, just like you and me, going through a very similar experience. The female midlife crisis is one stage of life, just like any other, with its own unique set of challenges and obstacles. But, there is also a huge potential for growth!


What Can You Do?

Talk to your friends. Midlife is easier if you’re surrounded by a circle of friends who can empathize and comfort you with your struggle. Women with friends have a greater sense of well-being than those who don’t. Not even family members have as great an impact.

Talk to a therapist. Cognitive therapy, life coaching, or group therapy might help you work through grief, manage anxiety, and plan a path toward greater fulfillment.

Reconnect with nature. Studies show that spending time outdoors, even for a few minutes a day, can lift your mood and improve your outlook. Sitting by the water, being at one with nature, and outdoor exercise all combat sadness and anxiety.

Try home remedies and healthy eating. We are officially old enough to choose what we put into our bodies!  YAY!  Eat the good stuff — leafy greens, fruits, and vegetables in all the rainbow colors, lean proteins. Try supplements like melatonin or magnesium to help you sleep, or break out some Copaiba oil or CBD (no THC) to help manage the stress and anxiety.

Write down what you’ve accomplished. Not just the big things like awards, degrees, and job titles. Write it all down: traumas you’ve survived, people you’ve loved, friends you’ve rescued, places you’ve traveled, places you’ve volunteered, books you’ve read, plants you have managed not to kill. Take time to honor all you have done and been.

Take steps toward a new future. Take an online course, start writing your memoirs or a novel, open a food truck, or start a new business. You may not have to radically overhaul your family or your career to make a material change in your happiness, but taking even one small step can make you feel differently about the situation.


The payoff for this struggle…

You are in the midst of a transition.  Essentially re-creating yourself, what you want, the relationships around you and where you’re going.